Hello All,
I started to think about my family and friends today. I was alarmed at the amount of time that has passed since I spoke with certain people! It is not because I don't want anything to do with them, but life gets busy and before you know it, a year or more has passed.
I also thought if something were to happen and I never had another conversation with that person, it would be terrible. So, I have promised myself to reconnect with family and friends AND continue to stay in touch. It is easier said than done, but making a conscious effort and having the desire to do it is the first step.
As you go about the hustle and bustle of the holidays, don't forget about what is really important. Love and fellowship with those you hold dear. Also, this may be a good time for forgiveness and putting old things to rest. God wants to do a new thing in all of us! Now is the time!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Season of Giving, Season of Change
Hello All,
During this time of year, I usually begin to hibernate. My actions and thoughts go under the covers with a warm cup of tea. I begin to reflect on the year and set goals for the upcoming one. These reflections can be exciting and at times sad.
However, this year, I have not had the desire to hibernate. Not in the least. Instead, I am bursting with energy and ready to get the new year going now! It is a change for me, but it just proves that God is ready to do a new thing with me. I can feel it deep down in my spirit and I am excited. Now, it's not to say that everything is perfect. In fact, some things in my life right now are beyond words. But, that is where my faith has to rise to the occasion.
My season of hibernation is over. God is bringing me into a new season and I am ready for it. I know that God has the right people, the right resources, and the right circumstances in place. All I have to do is be open and ready to receive what He has for me.
As 2012 approaches, identify what season God has you and be at peace with it. If you are in a season of hibernation, then hibernate. If God has you in a season of action, then act. God has you where you are for a reason. Your job is to use that space to connect with God so that He can guide you through the process.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
During this time of year, I usually begin to hibernate. My actions and thoughts go under the covers with a warm cup of tea. I begin to reflect on the year and set goals for the upcoming one. These reflections can be exciting and at times sad.
However, this year, I have not had the desire to hibernate. Not in the least. Instead, I am bursting with energy and ready to get the new year going now! It is a change for me, but it just proves that God is ready to do a new thing with me. I can feel it deep down in my spirit and I am excited. Now, it's not to say that everything is perfect. In fact, some things in my life right now are beyond words. But, that is where my faith has to rise to the occasion.
My season of hibernation is over. God is bringing me into a new season and I am ready for it. I know that God has the right people, the right resources, and the right circumstances in place. All I have to do is be open and ready to receive what He has for me.
As 2012 approaches, identify what season God has you and be at peace with it. If you are in a season of hibernation, then hibernate. If God has you in a season of action, then act. God has you where you are for a reason. Your job is to use that space to connect with God so that He can guide you through the process.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Friday, December 9, 2011
Never Give Up
Hello All,
Last night, I was watching Chopped, a cooking competition on the Food Network. Four chefs begin with a mystery basket of ingredients. They must use all of the ingredients in some way. After each round, the chef with the worst dish will be chopped. One of the chefs was a 26 year old from New York City. He had been cooking since he was 15 and suffered from Fibromyalgia. He also battled depression and low self esteem. He walked into the competition already defeated, telling himself that he could not do it. At the same time, he desperately wanted to win and prove to himself that he was worthy.
During the first round, he struggled. He was nervous, couldn't think straight, and simply forgot how to do things he does everyday. He told himself that he would eliminated, so "why am I even trying?" His appetizer looked awful and it seemed that he was going home. The judges told him that he was better than that, and he needed to find a way to put his doubts in check. At the end of round one, another chef was eliminated because she forgot to use one of the ingredients in the mystery box.
Round two began, and he put his game face on! With his main dish, he blew the other chefs out of the water! No one could believe the turnaround. He proved that he could win the competition. After the final round, he did win the competition and $10,000. You could tell that he hadn't smiled like that in a long time! As I watched him, I was so proud of what he accomplished. He fought through adversity, his pain, and his doubts to achieve his goal. All he needed was someone to say, "You are better than this."
Sometimes, the odds are against us. It looks like we are out of the game. But, if you can pull enough strength to tell yourself, "I am better than this...I can do this", change starts to occur immediately. Change refuses to let us give up. Change shows us that we are capable of doing the impossible.
Never give up!
Archuleta
Last night, I was watching Chopped, a cooking competition on the Food Network. Four chefs begin with a mystery basket of ingredients. They must use all of the ingredients in some way. After each round, the chef with the worst dish will be chopped. One of the chefs was a 26 year old from New York City. He had been cooking since he was 15 and suffered from Fibromyalgia. He also battled depression and low self esteem. He walked into the competition already defeated, telling himself that he could not do it. At the same time, he desperately wanted to win and prove to himself that he was worthy.
During the first round, he struggled. He was nervous, couldn't think straight, and simply forgot how to do things he does everyday. He told himself that he would eliminated, so "why am I even trying?" His appetizer looked awful and it seemed that he was going home. The judges told him that he was better than that, and he needed to find a way to put his doubts in check. At the end of round one, another chef was eliminated because she forgot to use one of the ingredients in the mystery box.
Round two began, and he put his game face on! With his main dish, he blew the other chefs out of the water! No one could believe the turnaround. He proved that he could win the competition. After the final round, he did win the competition and $10,000. You could tell that he hadn't smiled like that in a long time! As I watched him, I was so proud of what he accomplished. He fought through adversity, his pain, and his doubts to achieve his goal. All he needed was someone to say, "You are better than this."
Sometimes, the odds are against us. It looks like we are out of the game. But, if you can pull enough strength to tell yourself, "I am better than this...I can do this", change starts to occur immediately. Change refuses to let us give up. Change shows us that we are capable of doing the impossible.
Never give up!
Archuleta
Sunday, November 20, 2011
A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words
Hello All,
You've heard the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", but have you really taken the time to understand the importance of the message? I recently found an old picture of myself, and began reminiscing about what I was doing at that point in my life. When I compared the picture with a more recent one of myself, I realized how the pictures told me about myself and how they were a window into my life's journey.
The first picture showed a teenager who was hurting inside, but happy on the outside. The second picture showed a "30 something" woman - successful and thriving. In looking back at my life, I pondered how I got to where I am now. I got here because I stumbled, and I stood back up, and I fell back down and I got back up. I made really fabulous decisions and then I made some really poor ones. But the pictures that I am looking at today show that a journey of growth is possible, if you'll awake to who you are, awake to what you feel, awake to the ways in which you've fallen short, and awake to your success.
Pull those old photos out and go back in time. Lessons for the future!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Saturday, September 10, 2011
I'm Use To It
Hello All,
Lord knows that I don't have any patience! Obviously, I was taking a nap when He graciously bestowed that trait on everyone else. At an early age, I can remember huffing and puffing at the mere thought of having to wait on someone else for anything. Having to halt my plans, or change them altogether, just sent my little self into orbit! Why? Why is patience so hard for me to come by? I never explored it until recently. You see, God has been forcing me to deal with the issue. He has been placing certain people and situations into my life that force me to take a look at this issue and deal with it.
There are many scriptures in the bible pertaining to patience. One in particular that stands out for me is 2 Peter 1:6, And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness. It is God's desire for us to be like Him. Although His ways are not our ways, by being faithful and obedient to His word brings us closer in agreement with Him. Therefore, our actions are pleasing to God and we are much happier.
God is letting me know that I need to practice having greater patience. By doing so will bring me closer to Him and will shape me into a better person - the person that He needs me to be. Thank you Lord for what you are about to do!
Blessings,
Archuleta
Lord knows that I don't have any patience! Obviously, I was taking a nap when He graciously bestowed that trait on everyone else. At an early age, I can remember huffing and puffing at the mere thought of having to wait on someone else for anything. Having to halt my plans, or change them altogether, just sent my little self into orbit! Why? Why is patience so hard for me to come by? I never explored it until recently. You see, God has been forcing me to deal with the issue. He has been placing certain people and situations into my life that force me to take a look at this issue and deal with it.
There are many scriptures in the bible pertaining to patience. One in particular that stands out for me is 2 Peter 1:6, And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness. It is God's desire for us to be like Him. Although His ways are not our ways, by being faithful and obedient to His word brings us closer in agreement with Him. Therefore, our actions are pleasing to God and we are much happier.
God is letting me know that I need to practice having greater patience. By doing so will bring me closer to Him and will shape me into a better person - the person that He needs me to be. Thank you Lord for what you are about to do!
Blessings,
Archuleta
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Even If He Doesn't Do It, You Know that He Can
Hello All,
God is not obligated to do anything for us. Even though we may pray and read the bible, go to church on Sunday and Bible study on Wednesday. We do those things in order to strengthen our personal relationship with Him. We should have no ulterior motive in our praying and seeking His face. We know that He is able to anything that we ask or think. But that doesn't mean that He will.
God wants our first and our best. He is interested in our obedience and faithfulness. He wants us to trust Him and answer when He calls.
God is God all by himself. He doesn't need our help in figuring anything out and making anything happen. We read our bible and pray in order get closer to His purpose for our lives and to help us in our walk.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
God is not obligated to do anything for us. Even though we may pray and read the bible, go to church on Sunday and Bible study on Wednesday. We do those things in order to strengthen our personal relationship with Him. We should have no ulterior motive in our praying and seeking His face. We know that He is able to anything that we ask or think. But that doesn't mean that He will.
God wants our first and our best. He is interested in our obedience and faithfulness. He wants us to trust Him and answer when He calls.
God is God all by himself. He doesn't need our help in figuring anything out and making anything happen. We read our bible and pray in order get closer to His purpose for our lives and to help us in our walk.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Learn to Park
Hello All,
Last Saturday, I arrived at the Plaza Library in this blazing Kansas City heat. Luckily I snagged a decent parking space in the garage. After spending a good three hours inside, I made my way back into the garage. There on the windshield, was a sheet of notebook paper that simply said, "Learn to Park". It was written in my favorite color of purple, and on narrow ruled notebook paper. Wow, a person after my own heart! I laughed at the note, loudly! The thought of someone taking out the time to taunt me about my parking skills, which are not bad by the way, was comical. It made my day, so I folded the note and put it in my bag. A momento if you will. Lol. Was this stranger really mad at me? Or, could this guardian of the parking garage just need to find something better to do with their time?
It made me think about how people haven't learned to stay in their lane of life. Sometimes, people are not satisfied with what God has given them to do, so they begin placing themselves in everything else. Too eager to "assist", and not eager enough to mind their own business. If you are a librarian, don't try to be the academic advisor and faculty director! It's important to know your tasks and do them to the best of your ability. Stepping outside your lane only steps on toes and causes trouble.
The person that put the note on my car had no idea that I am writer and love this kind of stuff, or that they would be the subject of a blog entry! I clearly got the last laugh!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Last Saturday, I arrived at the Plaza Library in this blazing Kansas City heat. Luckily I snagged a decent parking space in the garage. After spending a good three hours inside, I made my way back into the garage. There on the windshield, was a sheet of notebook paper that simply said, "Learn to Park". It was written in my favorite color of purple, and on narrow ruled notebook paper. Wow, a person after my own heart! I laughed at the note, loudly! The thought of someone taking out the time to taunt me about my parking skills, which are not bad by the way, was comical. It made my day, so I folded the note and put it in my bag. A momento if you will. Lol. Was this stranger really mad at me? Or, could this guardian of the parking garage just need to find something better to do with their time?
It made me think about how people haven't learned to stay in their lane of life. Sometimes, people are not satisfied with what God has given them to do, so they begin placing themselves in everything else. Too eager to "assist", and not eager enough to mind their own business. If you are a librarian, don't try to be the academic advisor and faculty director! It's important to know your tasks and do them to the best of your ability. Stepping outside your lane only steps on toes and causes trouble.
The person that put the note on my car had no idea that I am writer and love this kind of stuff, or that they would be the subject of a blog entry! I clearly got the last laugh!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Thursday, July 21, 2011
It's Not Over Until It's Over
Hello All,
Why is it that we feel the need to write the end of the story before it actually comes? When a loved one is sick, why do we let fear of death take over? Or maybe if your marriage has gone rocky—why do you automatically think the worst? Perhaps your company is downsizing—have you already started packing your boxes, convinced you'll be let go?
Sometimes we get so anxious. We're so worried, we're so insecure, and we're so full of fear, that we write the end before the end has come. It's almost like something we're doing to try and prepare ourselves for pain.
Remind yourself that it is not over 'till it's over. You don't know what will happen, so why do you always prepare for the worst? That's not wise, and it's not preparation. What it begins to do is drain you from all the energy and force and power that can go into creating a new moment of destiny.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Why is it that we feel the need to write the end of the story before it actually comes? When a loved one is sick, why do we let fear of death take over? Or maybe if your marriage has gone rocky—why do you automatically think the worst? Perhaps your company is downsizing—have you already started packing your boxes, convinced you'll be let go?
Sometimes we get so anxious. We're so worried, we're so insecure, and we're so full of fear, that we write the end before the end has come. It's almost like something we're doing to try and prepare ourselves for pain.
Remind yourself that it is not over 'till it's over. You don't know what will happen, so why do you always prepare for the worst? That's not wise, and it's not preparation. What it begins to do is drain you from all the energy and force and power that can go into creating a new moment of destiny.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Saturday, June 25, 2011
What are you really saying to me?
Hello All,
I admit, when someone starts asking me a lot of questions, it gets on my nerves. As a matter of fact, my last good nerves. Especially, if these are questions that I have already answered. I begin to feel as if I am on the witness stand required to give a detailed account of my actions. "What is the big deal?", I say. "What is YOUR problem?" I say. As I started to ponder on this, I realized something. There just might be a problem, and the ball could be in my court to help resolve it.
Sometimes, particularly in relationships, people can get insecure or concerned about a host of things. Instead of just saying what has them feeling this way, they make a big deal out of something else! Dancing around the issue, and just creating more strife. It may take a lifetime to get to the root of the problem. I realized that the questions about one thing, may be a cover-up for something else. I will ask some questions to try and drill down to what is really being asked to me. Hopefully, by taking time out to calm down and show consideration for the other person's feelings, a resolution can emerge. That's what real life is all about.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
I admit, when someone starts asking me a lot of questions, it gets on my nerves. As a matter of fact, my last good nerves. Especially, if these are questions that I have already answered. I begin to feel as if I am on the witness stand required to give a detailed account of my actions. "What is the big deal?", I say. "What is YOUR problem?" I say. As I started to ponder on this, I realized something. There just might be a problem, and the ball could be in my court to help resolve it.
Sometimes, particularly in relationships, people can get insecure or concerned about a host of things. Instead of just saying what has them feeling this way, they make a big deal out of something else! Dancing around the issue, and just creating more strife. It may take a lifetime to get to the root of the problem. I realized that the questions about one thing, may be a cover-up for something else. I will ask some questions to try and drill down to what is really being asked to me. Hopefully, by taking time out to calm down and show consideration for the other person's feelings, a resolution can emerge. That's what real life is all about.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Friday, May 13, 2011
Comfort and Joy
Hello All,
The other day, I was looking through old albums trying to find pictures of my Mom and I. Mother's Day was difficult to get through, so I was seeking comfort. I was determined to find these pictures so that I could bring good memories to the surface of my mind. One picture in particular was of my mother and I coloring Easter eggs. I was about three years old, and she had a fiery red afro! So beautiful she was! Her glowy skin and thick eyebrows, and I was content as she held me in her arms. It is apparent from my smile in the picture, that there was no place I would rather be then by my mother's side. Just her presence made the sun shine brighter, and my life so much better.
That is how God is with us. Just to be in His presence brings us unimaginable comfort and joy. His love surpasses anything we could ask or think. We all have those days or periods in our lives that are difficult to get through, but we can meditate on where God has brought us from. His desire is to make our lives easy.
Rest in God's love!
The other day, I was looking through old albums trying to find pictures of my Mom and I. Mother's Day was difficult to get through, so I was seeking comfort. I was determined to find these pictures so that I could bring good memories to the surface of my mind. One picture in particular was of my mother and I coloring Easter eggs. I was about three years old, and she had a fiery red afro! So beautiful she was! Her glowy skin and thick eyebrows, and I was content as she held me in her arms. It is apparent from my smile in the picture, that there was no place I would rather be then by my mother's side. Just her presence made the sun shine brighter, and my life so much better.
That is how God is with us. Just to be in His presence brings us unimaginable comfort and joy. His love surpasses anything we could ask or think. We all have those days or periods in our lives that are difficult to get through, but we can meditate on where God has brought us from. His desire is to make our lives easy.
Rest in God's love!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Dear God
Dear God,
Please remind me that my days are numbered, and life is too precious to watch it go by. Thank you for blessing me despite my disobedience. Thank you for giving me shelter, food, clothing, and employment to be able to support those things. Although I complain, you still sustain me and allow me to do things I want to do. I appreciate the opportunity to share my gifts and talents with others, and the seeds that you have placed within my spirit to flourish and give you glory. Thank you for another day to get things right, and make a difference in the world. Lord, please forgive me for all my discretions and place joy in my heart. Help me to forgive others and love others. Remove bitterness and doubt, and replace it with love and confidence.
I strive to have a close relationship with you Lord, and I know that I can do nothing without you. My life is present because of your grace and mercy. Your lovingkindness is more than I deserve. I give you all the praise.
Please remind me that my days are numbered, and life is too precious to watch it go by. Thank you for blessing me despite my disobedience. Thank you for giving me shelter, food, clothing, and employment to be able to support those things. Although I complain, you still sustain me and allow me to do things I want to do. I appreciate the opportunity to share my gifts and talents with others, and the seeds that you have placed within my spirit to flourish and give you glory. Thank you for another day to get things right, and make a difference in the world. Lord, please forgive me for all my discretions and place joy in my heart. Help me to forgive others and love others. Remove bitterness and doubt, and replace it with love and confidence.
I strive to have a close relationship with you Lord, and I know that I can do nothing without you. My life is present because of your grace and mercy. Your lovingkindness is more than I deserve. I give you all the praise.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Passion is Perfect
Hello All,
What is your passion? That one thing that you would do even if you didn't get paid for it. When you think about it, it brings you joy and peace. There is no reservation, or hesitation when it comes to it. You can feel your heart beat in rhythmic time, and life has bonified meaning. Do you know what your passion is? Ignite a fire inside of you and grasp your truth. Don't be afraid of what it looks like, what it sounds like, or what anybody says. Do you and be who you are! Live the life that you were meant to live. In your passion lies your purpose. Love life!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
What is your passion? That one thing that you would do even if you didn't get paid for it. When you think about it, it brings you joy and peace. There is no reservation, or hesitation when it comes to it. You can feel your heart beat in rhythmic time, and life has bonified meaning. Do you know what your passion is? Ignite a fire inside of you and grasp your truth. Don't be afraid of what it looks like, what it sounds like, or what anybody says. Do you and be who you are! Live the life that you were meant to live. In your passion lies your purpose. Love life!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Head Not the Tail
Hello All,
There is a Yoruba proverb that says: For no man can be blessed without the acceptance of his own head. The wise Africans knew and understood the power of the mind. People can only be as good as their thoughts, as successful as mental patterns, as progressive as their ideas. Africans did not rely on books, relative theories or quotations. They listened to their thoughts, prayed for divine guidance, followed intuition. Education, money, fame and notoriety were considered as useful as dirty dishwater without a clear, firm, focused mind. Their process was simple. They developed a strong faith and connection to God. A healthy love and respect for their ancestors and parents. A commitment and dedication to the traditions of their family. And a trusting relationship to the spirit of their own head. Trust your head and your first thoughts regardless of how it sounds. Your head takes you to the places you want to go.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
There is a Yoruba proverb that says: For no man can be blessed without the acceptance of his own head. The wise Africans knew and understood the power of the mind. People can only be as good as their thoughts, as successful as mental patterns, as progressive as their ideas. Africans did not rely on books, relative theories or quotations. They listened to their thoughts, prayed for divine guidance, followed intuition. Education, money, fame and notoriety were considered as useful as dirty dishwater without a clear, firm, focused mind. Their process was simple. They developed a strong faith and connection to God. A healthy love and respect for their ancestors and parents. A commitment and dedication to the traditions of their family. And a trusting relationship to the spirit of their own head. Trust your head and your first thoughts regardless of how it sounds. Your head takes you to the places you want to go.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Celebrate Women's History Month
March is Women's History Month, a celebration honoring women's contributions in the arts and sciences, as well as their efforts in the struggle for equality. Women's History Month traces its origins to International Women's Day, which took place for the first time on March 8, 1911. This later served as the focal point of National Women's History Week, officially recognized by Presidential Proclamation in 1980. Finally, in 1987, Congress expanded this event into a month-long celebration.
There is Purpose
Hello All,
People email me all the time and ask, "How do I know what my purpose is?" I always respond, "Seek the Lord, because He is the only one that will be able to tell you that." The very thing that I thought was just a hobby, happened to be my God-given purpose. God revealed it to me, and laid out all the instructions. It was so crystal clear that I had absolutely no doubt or reservation. Sometimes, it is not easy! However, God always places the right circumstances and people in my path that will allow me to carry out my mission. God will not reveal something to you without giving you the proper guidance. He is a God of order, and knows what is best for us according to His plan.
Our problem is that we are usually not on the same page with God. We want things to happen in our time, and when we think it is best. We grow impatient in our waiting, and decide we will take matters into our own hands. Once that happens, all hell breaks loose and we realize that we should have just remained still.
Let me encourage you today to seek God's presence and voice. If you don't know what your purpose is, ask Him. Be open, available, and ready. When He reveals it to you, be encouraged that He will give you everything you need to do what He is asking of you.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
People email me all the time and ask, "How do I know what my purpose is?" I always respond, "Seek the Lord, because He is the only one that will be able to tell you that." The very thing that I thought was just a hobby, happened to be my God-given purpose. God revealed it to me, and laid out all the instructions. It was so crystal clear that I had absolutely no doubt or reservation. Sometimes, it is not easy! However, God always places the right circumstances and people in my path that will allow me to carry out my mission. God will not reveal something to you without giving you the proper guidance. He is a God of order, and knows what is best for us according to His plan.
Our problem is that we are usually not on the same page with God. We want things to happen in our time, and when we think it is best. We grow impatient in our waiting, and decide we will take matters into our own hands. Once that happens, all hell breaks loose and we realize that we should have just remained still.
Let me encourage you today to seek God's presence and voice. If you don't know what your purpose is, ask Him. Be open, available, and ready. When He reveals it to you, be encouraged that He will give you everything you need to do what He is asking of you.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Hello All,
In 2006, I had my very first book signing at Barnes and Noble. In addition the signing, a reporter from the Sun Times was coming to interview me. She arrived and began asking lots of questions, and she took pictures of me talking with people about my book. A couple of weeks later when the article was released, I was sadly disappointed. The reporter misquoted me, and had some personal information wrong. I couldn't believe it! My first interview and it was not all that I hoped it would be. I had to move on from it, and my family and friends told me not to worry about it. Since then, I have given so many interviews and no one even mentions that first article. Do you know what it feels like to be misunderstood? You desperately want everyone to know the truth, but reality is too far gone.
Most of the time, the things we worry about aren't worthy of us thinking about anyway. We have to learn how to filter for our own sake, and keep it moving. The truth will eventually come to light. All will be well in your heart and mind.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
In 2006, I had my very first book signing at Barnes and Noble. In addition the signing, a reporter from the Sun Times was coming to interview me. She arrived and began asking lots of questions, and she took pictures of me talking with people about my book. A couple of weeks later when the article was released, I was sadly disappointed. The reporter misquoted me, and had some personal information wrong. I couldn't believe it! My first interview and it was not all that I hoped it would be. I had to move on from it, and my family and friends told me not to worry about it. Since then, I have given so many interviews and no one even mentions that first article. Do you know what it feels like to be misunderstood? You desperately want everyone to know the truth, but reality is too far gone.
Most of the time, the things we worry about aren't worthy of us thinking about anyway. We have to learn how to filter for our own sake, and keep it moving. The truth will eventually come to light. All will be well in your heart and mind.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Friday, February 25, 2011
Truth of the Matter
Hello All,
When I was a kid, we lived briefly in Fort Sill, Oklahoma. I was playing softball with a group of kids, and they asked me where I was from. Proudly, I said "Kansas City." Well, then came the Wizard of Oz jokes and the infamous line, "You're not in Kansas anymore!" Confidently I said, "I'm from Kansas City, Missouri not Kansas." Well, now they thought I was crazy. They proceeded to tell me that there was no such thing as Kansas City, Missouri! I grew more irritated over these military brats trying to tell me where I was from! The taunting continued until my Dad arrived to pick me up. I told him the twisted tale, and he laughed. He said, "As long as YOU know who you are, and where you're from...who cares!" My Dad and his infinite wisdom!
It all relates to discovering your truth and living it, regardless of what people are saying. The truth of the matter is that people will talk, but you decide where that talk is going to go. If you are constantly changing what you say and do in order to please others, that is not living your true self. Take the time to discover who you really are, and all your decisions will be well within your soul.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
When I was a kid, we lived briefly in Fort Sill, Oklahoma. I was playing softball with a group of kids, and they asked me where I was from. Proudly, I said "Kansas City." Well, then came the Wizard of Oz jokes and the infamous line, "You're not in Kansas anymore!" Confidently I said, "I'm from Kansas City, Missouri not Kansas." Well, now they thought I was crazy. They proceeded to tell me that there was no such thing as Kansas City, Missouri! I grew more irritated over these military brats trying to tell me where I was from! The taunting continued until my Dad arrived to pick me up. I told him the twisted tale, and he laughed. He said, "As long as YOU know who you are, and where you're from...who cares!" My Dad and his infinite wisdom!
It all relates to discovering your truth and living it, regardless of what people are saying. The truth of the matter is that people will talk, but you decide where that talk is going to go. If you are constantly changing what you say and do in order to please others, that is not living your true self. Take the time to discover who you really are, and all your decisions will be well within your soul.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Sunday, February 20, 2011
The Gift of Legacy
Hello All,
I was about eight years old when my Nana introduced me to poetry. One of the most amazing women that I have ever known, was also an amazing poet and writer. She gave riveting inspirational messages at church, and her faith in God lead to her write timeless poems. It was natural for her to want to share her passion with me. We were very close, and I believe God lead her to plant the seed within me.
One day, she had a black & white composition book on the table. She gave me the book, and I asked "What do I write about?" She replied, "Anything you want to!" Wow, really? It started out very innocent with Roses are red, violets are blue... Then, I started paying attention to what people were saying and doing around me. My emotions and opinions began to take a life of their own. I became more of myself, which was not yet defined, but I was changing. My notebook became a trusted friend that traveled with me everywhere, and allowed me to safely express myself. What a wonderful gift and legacy my Nana passed down.
Nana passed away during my senior year of high school, six days after my 18th birthday. She left me a foot locker of all her poetry, speeches, and writings. She always knew that I would be a published author! As a kid, she said, "When you publish your book, include my poetry too." So, that is exactly what I did, and will continue to do. She is a constant motivation for me, and I thank God that I had her in my life for 18 years. She is still working on my behalf, and I still use those composition books!
Our strength comes from within. It fits neatly into our hearts and minds, but reveals itself when we ask it too. It's power can propel our dreams into flight, and sustain us through the journey. What a journey I have had, but it has only just begun! Thanks Nana, miss you.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Normal Girls Rule
Hello All,
My senior year of high school, Claire moved in down the street from me. Being on a military base, families were moving in and out all the time. Fort Stewart, Georgia was where I called home for about five years. Military "brats" sort of get use to moving around, making new friends, and learning new schools. Claire was from California, and she was getting herself into trouble, so her parents sent her to live with her aunt and uncle in Fort Stewart thinking she would do better in another environment. Reluctantly, we became friends. You see, Claire was gorgeous. Light-skinned, long hair, and the kind of gorgeous that made guys stop and drool. Why was she wanting to be MY friend? For a girl like me, who had low self-esteem and a poor self-image, Claire was the enemy. Clearly, I hated being seen with her because she got all the attention. I think she was oblivious to just how much attention she received.
I battled low self esteem all through high school. I never thought I measured up, and found myself being jealous of other girls. It was a vicious cycle that I couldn't get out of.
After Christmas break, her aunt and uncle sent her back to California. I guess she was too much for everybody. By this time, we had developed a strong friendship and I was sad to see her go. I wanted to be happy and relieved, but I couldn't get there! My mother told me that people come into your life for a reason, and sometimes just for a season. Could Claire have provided me with a life lesson? Surely, the California girl that I felt inferior to couldn't possibly have something to teach me.
When we returned from Christmas break, people were asking me about Claire. "Where's your buddy?" I told them that she went back to California to stay. No one seemed to care, or broken up about it. One particular guy said, "She was cool to look at, but not much else." Wow. I realized within that comment, that I was just a normal girl. I was smart, articulate, creative, and was actually kinda cute! I had issues with esteem and image, but so did every other girl at school!
The remainder of my senior year, I smiled, I laughed, I went to prom, and I liked myself. All of this because of the girl from California.
Love yourself. Because if you don't, no one else will.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
My senior year of high school, Claire moved in down the street from me. Being on a military base, families were moving in and out all the time. Fort Stewart, Georgia was where I called home for about five years. Military "brats" sort of get use to moving around, making new friends, and learning new schools. Claire was from California, and she was getting herself into trouble, so her parents sent her to live with her aunt and uncle in Fort Stewart thinking she would do better in another environment. Reluctantly, we became friends. You see, Claire was gorgeous. Light-skinned, long hair, and the kind of gorgeous that made guys stop and drool. Why was she wanting to be MY friend? For a girl like me, who had low self-esteem and a poor self-image, Claire was the enemy. Clearly, I hated being seen with her because she got all the attention. I think she was oblivious to just how much attention she received.
I battled low self esteem all through high school. I never thought I measured up, and found myself being jealous of other girls. It was a vicious cycle that I couldn't get out of.
After Christmas break, her aunt and uncle sent her back to California. I guess she was too much for everybody. By this time, we had developed a strong friendship and I was sad to see her go. I wanted to be happy and relieved, but I couldn't get there! My mother told me that people come into your life for a reason, and sometimes just for a season. Could Claire have provided me with a life lesson? Surely, the California girl that I felt inferior to couldn't possibly have something to teach me.
When we returned from Christmas break, people were asking me about Claire. "Where's your buddy?" I told them that she went back to California to stay. No one seemed to care, or broken up about it. One particular guy said, "She was cool to look at, but not much else." Wow. I realized within that comment, that I was just a normal girl. I was smart, articulate, creative, and was actually kinda cute! I had issues with esteem and image, but so did every other girl at school!
The remainder of my senior year, I smiled, I laughed, I went to prom, and I liked myself. All of this because of the girl from California.
Love yourself. Because if you don't, no one else will.
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Friday, February 18, 2011
Reality
Hello All,
I was 26 years old when I got married to my college sweetheart. I was excited about being a wife, and my desire to have children was immediate. We were young, ambitious, and loved our families and friends. Although we weren't on the same time frame as far as having children, I remained patient and continued to be in the moment of my marriage. After five years, a new home, and a change in careers, the emptiness began to take over and the marriage began to reveal major signs of trouble. A few years after that, I found myself divorced, in a one bedroom apartment, a broken down vehicle, and people who had turned their backs on me. Wow.
I remember waking up crying every morning, putting on a fake mask at work, and crying on the way home. My emotions ran from sad and lonely, to angry and confused. The definition that I had created was not even me anymore, and I did not know what to do. I accidentally saw myself in the mirror one day - broken. I looked pathetic. I looked sad. I didn't recognize Archuleta. At that moment, I said outloud that it was over and I wasn't going to cry another day. I asked God to forgive me, and if He would be so kind to clean me up one more time.
The reality is, life can hit us with some hard stuff! Stuff that will make you rethink your very existence, and bring you to your knees. Well, I suppose that is the perfect place to be - a position to pray and ask God for help. He is the only one that was able to restore my spirit, lift me up, and place me on solid ground. The only one! He didn't have to do it, but He has the master plan and knows the bigger picture.
Today, God is restoring everything that I lost. He has brought me back to a place of peace, and the hurt from the past is long gone. I encourage you on today! Whatever it is, whatever it looks like, whatever it sounds like....give it to God. Allow Him to take that burden from you and work it out on your behalf. In the morning, you will be alright and the sun will shine. Praise God!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
I was 26 years old when I got married to my college sweetheart. I was excited about being a wife, and my desire to have children was immediate. We were young, ambitious, and loved our families and friends. Although we weren't on the same time frame as far as having children, I remained patient and continued to be in the moment of my marriage. After five years, a new home, and a change in careers, the emptiness began to take over and the marriage began to reveal major signs of trouble. A few years after that, I found myself divorced, in a one bedroom apartment, a broken down vehicle, and people who had turned their backs on me. Wow.
I remember waking up crying every morning, putting on a fake mask at work, and crying on the way home. My emotions ran from sad and lonely, to angry and confused. The definition that I had created was not even me anymore, and I did not know what to do. I accidentally saw myself in the mirror one day - broken. I looked pathetic. I looked sad. I didn't recognize Archuleta. At that moment, I said outloud that it was over and I wasn't going to cry another day. I asked God to forgive me, and if He would be so kind to clean me up one more time.
The reality is, life can hit us with some hard stuff! Stuff that will make you rethink your very existence, and bring you to your knees. Well, I suppose that is the perfect place to be - a position to pray and ask God for help. He is the only one that was able to restore my spirit, lift me up, and place me on solid ground. The only one! He didn't have to do it, but He has the master plan and knows the bigger picture.
Today, God is restoring everything that I lost. He has brought me back to a place of peace, and the hurt from the past is long gone. I encourage you on today! Whatever it is, whatever it looks like, whatever it sounds like....give it to God. Allow Him to take that burden from you and work it out on your behalf. In the morning, you will be alright and the sun will shine. Praise God!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Why Do You Torture Yourself?
Hello All,
The first man to ever tell me I was beautiful was my Dad. Real fathers are remarkable in building their daughter's self esteem and guiding them to that place of a secure SELF. Along the way, certain forces may come and damage that yolk. That's when the real work begins.
My Babe asked me the other day why I torture myself. He manages models, and is always looking for models (or wanna-bees), and the whole idea of it hits me hard. I know he loves me, and thinks the world of me, but the thought of him blatantly finding other women attractive is more than I can handle most times. Sound familiar? Why do we torture ourselves? Why do we purposely go out and find those situations that create negativity for us? Why can't we accept what's being said and shown to us?
Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you honestly feel about yourself with all of your successes, abilities, flaws and limits. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving others' respect. When you have low self-esteem, on the other hand, you put little value on your opinions and ideas, and you constantly worry that you aren't "good enough." Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every part of your life, including your relationships, your job and your health. But you can raise your self-esteem to a healthy level, even if you're an adult who's been harboring a negative self-image since childhood.
Here are five steps toward healthy self-esteem are based on cognitive behavioral therapy principles. As you go through these five steps, jot down your thoughts, experiences and observations in a journal to help you use these steps more effectively. They helped me!
Step 1: Identify troubling conditions or situations
Think about the conditions or situations that you find troubling and that seem to deflate your self-esteem, such as dreading a business presentation, frequently becoming angry or always expecting the worst. You may be struggling with a change in life circumstances, such as the death of a loved one, job loss or children leaving home, or a relationship with another person, such as a spouse, family member or co-worker.
Step 2: Become aware of beliefs and thoughts
Once you've identified troubling conditions or situations, pay attention to your thoughts related to them. This includes your self-talk — what you tell yourself — and your interpretation of what the situation means. Your thoughts and beliefs may be positive, negative or neutral. They may be rational — based on reason or facts — or irrational — based on false ideas.
Step 3: Pinpoint negative or inaccurate thinking
Notice when your thoughts turn toward the negative. Your beliefs and thoughts about a situation affect your reaction to it. Negative thoughts and beliefs about something or someone can trigger physical, emotional and behavioral responses, such as:
■Physical responses. These may include muscle tension, a sore back, racing heart, stomach problems, sweating or changes in sleeping patterns.
■Emotional responses. These may include difficulty concentrating, or feeling depressed, angry, sad, nervous, guilty or worried.
■Behavioral responses. These may include eating when not hungry, avoiding tasks, working more than usual, spending increased time alone, obsessing about a situation or blaming others for your problems.
Step 4: Challenge negative or inaccurate thinking
Your initial thoughts may not be the only possible way to view a situation. So test the accuracy of your thoughts. Ask yourself whether your view is consistent with facts and logic or whether there might be other explanations for the situation. You may not easily recognize inaccuracies in your thinking, though. Most people have automatic, long-standing ways of thinking about their lives and themselves. These long-held thoughts and beliefs feel normal and factual to you, but many are actually just opinions or perceptions.
Step 5: Change your thoughts and beliefs
Once you've identified negative or inaccurate thinking you can replace it with accurate thoughts and beliefs. This can enable you to find constructive ways to cope, and give your self-esteem a boost. It takes time and effort to learn how to recognize and replace distressing thoughts with accurate ones. Thoughts often occur spontaneously or automatically. They can be hard to control or turn off. Thoughts also can be very powerful and aren't always based on logic.
The first man to ever tell me I was beautiful was my Dad. Real fathers are remarkable in building their daughter's self esteem and guiding them to that place of a secure SELF. Along the way, certain forces may come and damage that yolk. That's when the real work begins.
My Babe asked me the other day why I torture myself. He manages models, and is always looking for models (or wanna-bees), and the whole idea of it hits me hard. I know he loves me, and thinks the world of me, but the thought of him blatantly finding other women attractive is more than I can handle most times. Sound familiar? Why do we torture ourselves? Why do we purposely go out and find those situations that create negativity for us? Why can't we accept what's being said and shown to us?
Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you honestly feel about yourself with all of your successes, abilities, flaws and limits. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving others' respect. When you have low self-esteem, on the other hand, you put little value on your opinions and ideas, and you constantly worry that you aren't "good enough." Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every part of your life, including your relationships, your job and your health. But you can raise your self-esteem to a healthy level, even if you're an adult who's been harboring a negative self-image since childhood.
Here are five steps toward healthy self-esteem are based on cognitive behavioral therapy principles. As you go through these five steps, jot down your thoughts, experiences and observations in a journal to help you use these steps more effectively. They helped me!
Step 1: Identify troubling conditions or situations
Think about the conditions or situations that you find troubling and that seem to deflate your self-esteem, such as dreading a business presentation, frequently becoming angry or always expecting the worst. You may be struggling with a change in life circumstances, such as the death of a loved one, job loss or children leaving home, or a relationship with another person, such as a spouse, family member or co-worker.
Step 2: Become aware of beliefs and thoughts
Once you've identified troubling conditions or situations, pay attention to your thoughts related to them. This includes your self-talk — what you tell yourself — and your interpretation of what the situation means. Your thoughts and beliefs may be positive, negative or neutral. They may be rational — based on reason or facts — or irrational — based on false ideas.
Step 3: Pinpoint negative or inaccurate thinking
Notice when your thoughts turn toward the negative. Your beliefs and thoughts about a situation affect your reaction to it. Negative thoughts and beliefs about something or someone can trigger physical, emotional and behavioral responses, such as:
■Physical responses. These may include muscle tension, a sore back, racing heart, stomach problems, sweating or changes in sleeping patterns.
■Emotional responses. These may include difficulty concentrating, or feeling depressed, angry, sad, nervous, guilty or worried.
■Behavioral responses. These may include eating when not hungry, avoiding tasks, working more than usual, spending increased time alone, obsessing about a situation or blaming others for your problems.
Step 4: Challenge negative or inaccurate thinking
Your initial thoughts may not be the only possible way to view a situation. So test the accuracy of your thoughts. Ask yourself whether your view is consistent with facts and logic or whether there might be other explanations for the situation. You may not easily recognize inaccuracies in your thinking, though. Most people have automatic, long-standing ways of thinking about their lives and themselves. These long-held thoughts and beliefs feel normal and factual to you, but many are actually just opinions or perceptions.
Step 5: Change your thoughts and beliefs
Once you've identified negative or inaccurate thinking you can replace it with accurate thoughts and beliefs. This can enable you to find constructive ways to cope, and give your self-esteem a boost. It takes time and effort to learn how to recognize and replace distressing thoughts with accurate ones. Thoughts often occur spontaneously or automatically. They can be hard to control or turn off. Thoughts also can be very powerful and aren't always based on logic.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
What's Really Happening?
Hello All,
What are you looking at today? Not in the natural sense, but with your spiritual eyes. In other words, what is in the forefront of your mind and in your heart? Are you constantly dwelling on your problems or things that have happened in your past? In the natural, you will move in the direction that your eyes are looking. In the spiritual, it works the same way. Whatever you focus your mind and heart on, you will move toward.
If you are constantly dwelling on your problems or things in your past, wondering “what if,” then you will stay right where you are. But if you choose to forgive and release the past, then you can focus on what is ahead of you, and you’ll begin to move forward.
God doesn’t want you to live in the past. He wants you to keep growing and moving forward. Make the decision to meditate on His goodness and focus on His promises. Look straight ahead so you can see His blessing and move forward into the life of victory He has promised you!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
What are you looking at today? Not in the natural sense, but with your spiritual eyes. In other words, what is in the forefront of your mind and in your heart? Are you constantly dwelling on your problems or things that have happened in your past? In the natural, you will move in the direction that your eyes are looking. In the spiritual, it works the same way. Whatever you focus your mind and heart on, you will move toward.
If you are constantly dwelling on your problems or things in your past, wondering “what if,” then you will stay right where you are. But if you choose to forgive and release the past, then you can focus on what is ahead of you, and you’ll begin to move forward.
God doesn’t want you to live in the past. He wants you to keep growing and moving forward. Make the decision to meditate on His goodness and focus on His promises. Look straight ahead so you can see His blessing and move forward into the life of victory He has promised you!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Get On With It
Hello All,
At the beginning of 2011, I carefully wrote down numerous goals and plans for myself and my career as a writer. From the small things like getting new bookmarks, to the bigger things of starting my own publishing company, I expressed in detail what my plans were. On this first day of February, I have not departed from those plans. As a matter of fact, I am revisiting them today to see what needs to be updated! I get excited about where my head is at! I am always thinking, planning, dreaming, wishing, hoping, and PRAYING! Don't forget about exhaling, questioning, learning, growing, and PRAYING some more! Always in a quest to become more of myself. I don't allow anyone to sway me from my belief system or the plans that I have. Anyone. I don't have the heart to straddle the fence about who I am, or what I represent. I take advice through listening, and "I will pray on that", but at the end of the day I have to be at peace with who I am and what I do.
God has revealed things to me, and has shown me places I will go and people that I will encounter. So, the excitement is overwhelming. However, I must admit that being patient with God's time is a challenge! I know that these things will come to fruition all in due season. God wants us to have Hope, Faith, and Intent. He also wants us to speak those things that are not as though they were! You may not see it yet, but speak it into existence - you have the power to do that.
Let me encourage you on today to Get On with life! Revisit those resolutions and plans you wrote on New Year's Day, and put new energy and boldness into them. Pray on those things and let God take them to the next level. You will be overwhelmed and excited too!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
At the beginning of 2011, I carefully wrote down numerous goals and plans for myself and my career as a writer. From the small things like getting new bookmarks, to the bigger things of starting my own publishing company, I expressed in detail what my plans were. On this first day of February, I have not departed from those plans. As a matter of fact, I am revisiting them today to see what needs to be updated! I get excited about where my head is at! I am always thinking, planning, dreaming, wishing, hoping, and PRAYING! Don't forget about exhaling, questioning, learning, growing, and PRAYING some more! Always in a quest to become more of myself. I don't allow anyone to sway me from my belief system or the plans that I have. Anyone. I don't have the heart to straddle the fence about who I am, or what I represent. I take advice through listening, and "I will pray on that", but at the end of the day I have to be at peace with who I am and what I do.
God has revealed things to me, and has shown me places I will go and people that I will encounter. So, the excitement is overwhelming. However, I must admit that being patient with God's time is a challenge! I know that these things will come to fruition all in due season. God wants us to have Hope, Faith, and Intent. He also wants us to speak those things that are not as though they were! You may not see it yet, but speak it into existence - you have the power to do that.
Let me encourage you on today to Get On with life! Revisit those resolutions and plans you wrote on New Year's Day, and put new energy and boldness into them. Pray on those things and let God take them to the next level. You will be overwhelmed and excited too!
Be Blessed,
Archuleta
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